I Called Her Back
One day, I called my body back.
I asked her to just exist for me again. I released her from the impossible responsibility of meeting everyone else’s expectations. I asked her to instead align with my intentions. I stopped asking her to meet an outside standard and instead invited her to express her needs.
I told her she no longer needed to feel the worry of not looking pretty or pleasing to strangers. I announced that the shame of all the times she didn’t look perfect was no longer something she needed to hold inside her.
Some days she asked for comfort and other days she asked for style. Some days she wanted rest and others she wanted adventure. I obliged her each time.
It didn’t take long for me to feel her healing.
I felt centered inside her again. For years I felt like I floated just outside of her, trying to make sure she was appearing and behaving pleasing to others. Sit up straight,...
My empathy is frustrated with your lack of empathy. I am no hero, savior or guru...I am simply a person who wants things to be better for everyone. I do too little, I make mistakes and although I dedicate a lot of time to learning about the important issues...I fall short every day. I’m tired for so many reasons and I have little patience left for the lack of empathy that hits my comments, inbox and DMs. I have written the following to address your criticism. I am happy to share it with those who feel my same exhausted frustration. Feel free to use it or create your own based on it.
My truth is as follows.
I am for racial equality. Whether you’d like to acknowledge it or not, our country was built on inequality. Systemic racism is a problem in almost every patriarchal system we have. White supremacy is now proudly showing itself in our culture instead of lurking in the shadows. I am for equality. I am...
How do you do it?
How do you blend in? Are you really like everybody else or are you just good at pretending?
I can’t do it. I spent a lot of time trying but I’ve always been a square peg trying to fit in to a round hole. A square peg wearing shiny, sparkly sequins while everyone else wore beige.
I have this inner knowledge of my feelings that is so strong that it overrides all my other system. If it doesn’t feel “right” I can’t stay. My energy takes action before my brain knows what’s happening. If how I want to feel doesn’t line up with how I’m feeling.... I can’t do it.
Can you? Can you silence the feeling of misalignment or do you just not feel it? Do you have an override switch that I don’t. How do you conform yourself to be accepted by the people around you? Are you better at wearing the camouflage than I am? I used to try, people didn’t buy it.
How do you not feel the...
My empathy is evergreen but my energy and time are not. They are sacred and I protect them carefully.
Dearest Empathy Army,
Being an empath is so wonderful and difficult, so painful and powerful. We feel everything more. The sweetest of emotions is greater for us but so is the pain. We all have that one pain that hits the hardest, our own personal kryptonite...for me it’s rejection.
I don’t think my experience is unique, but I’ve dealt with rejection a lot in my life. I’m only 5 feet tall but I have big energy. It’s shiny and weird and doesn’t ever fit in anywhere. It’s ambitious and powerful and no matter how hard I try to dim it, it’s brightness still seems to piss people off. I’ve learned to own it and to love it but that process was dark and hard and painful.
I love everybody and I want everybody to love me (I think that’s the official empath motto). I lived the first 25 years of my life as if...
My people are trapped in a deception like sleep and some days I feel helpless in my efforts to wake them up. I know I signed up for this, I know it’s my purpose here but some days I feel overwhelmed by the magnitude of the job. I am just a human myself, I too struggle with being held captive. The freedom has to be fought for every damn day.
My people have been sold a lie. A magnificent ruse, a deception so artfully and skillfully crafted that I revel in its brilliance. They took a fundamental truth, flipped it around and sold it. This ultimate treachery costs my people their freedom....and they don’t even realize they are caged.
They have been sold the idea of light and darkness in reverse. Humans work hard to be “good” and live in the light. They don’t realize that what they think is the light is really the dark. They work to avoid and rise above the...
Over the past few weeks I have been struggling with a feeling. To be honest, I noticed it’s presence a few months ago. I acknowledged it but I didn't lean in to it. That’s not like me, I lean in to feelings for a living....but this one felt familiar in that way that makes me hold my jaw too tightly and keep constant tension in my shoulders. This is the feeling that led me once to a complete and utter reckoning and self revolution. This feeling is the one I find the most uncomfortable because I know what it leads to and I also know why it’s here and I’m scared.
This feeling is restlessness. For about the first 25 years of my life I felt restless. I didn’t have a word to describe it but when I had a quiet moment I felt like I wanted to jump out of my own skin. It’s like there was a clock ticking in my ear and each tick was mocking me and saying “when are you going to be her?”. I had no idea what that...
“Your Mom’s going to be in the hospital for awhile. She’s really sick. Be good and take care of your little brother.” Did my happiness cause that moment to happen? 7 year old me decided it did. It caused me to spend years fearing that being happy without being prepared for something bad to happen at any moment was dangerous. I call this the Happiness Conflict and chances are you are suffering from your own version of it.
The happiness conflict is a belief that being too happy or content for a steady period of time will cause something bad to happen. In other words, if things get too good or feel easy for a minute, you start fearing that something bad is going to happen, as if that state of happiness is dangerous. As if it’s calling something bad to you.
Think for a moment; have you ever felt really happy for a few minutes and then suddenly riddled with fear that something bad was going to happen? Have you ever...
New Years Resolutions, or any goal for that matter, fail for one basic reason. Now this reason is basic in nature, in fact I can tell it to you in 3 words, I can explain it to you in a few paragraphs. However, don’t let the simplicity make you feel bad for having fallen victim to it in the past. In fact, according to US News & World Report, 80% of New Years Resolutions fail!
So should you skip them this year? Nope...set those resolutions baby, just learn why they’ve failed before and then use my tips to not fall victim again.
The reason New Years Resolutions fail is......
Fear overpowers Desire.
What does that mean? You have two main forces influencing your life: your intuition and your ego. They are meant to work in balance with each other. Think of your life as a cup. Your intuition’s job is to pour in to the cup with experiences and feelings and adventure. It’s the living part...